An Asian bride exclusive of various wedding rituals and customs that will help you through ceremonies Sans confusion…
The Gujarati are very lively people and celebrate their festivities and other special occasions with extravagance and a great spirit.
A typical ceremony performed before many auspicious events. The pundit performs this pooja in the bride and groom’s homes with the aim to eliminate any evil that may affect the couple. The families pray to Lord Ganesh and seek his blessings.
The Sagaai is the engagement ceremony and begins when the bride arrives at the groom’s house with the math. This is a package that represents good luck. The Sagaai symbolises the bride’s family’s acceptance of the union of their daughter and the groom.
Usually held the night before the big day, this is an opportunity for both sides of the family to meet and greet informally. The highlight of the night is the Raas, when there is lots of dancing with dandia sticks. Garba is also a chance for potential couples to introduce themselves. .
The bride and groom are covered in yellow turmeric paste. This is to cleanse the bride and groom and produces a healthy glow.
The Gujarati wedding combines elements of the Hindu celebrations including the Sangeet (song parties) and mehndi (henna).
THE WEDDING CEREMONY
The Gujarati custom entails that the bride’s maternal uncle (mama) carries the bride to the mandap. The couple is seated, separated by a curtain and then the pundit begins the ceremony with blessings. In some communities, the curtain is raised and the couple garland each other.
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The groom is welcomed to the mandap by his future mother-in-law. In the Madhuparka, the groom’s feet are washed and he is offered honey and milk. The most interesting custom follows in which the bride’s sisters steal the groom’s shoes. He is held ‘ransom’ and the shoes are returned once a fee has been paid.
In this ritual, the groom’s shawl is tied to the bride’s sari. The knot and joined hands of the couple symbolise the union of two souls joined together in holy matrimony. Mantras are chanted to invoke the blessings of Goddess Lakshmi and Goddess Parvati for the bride. The family and relatives present also come together to bless the couple and shower grains of rice and rose petals on them.
Gujurati weddings follow a variation of the hindu ritual of saptapadi. Instead of the seven northward steps that arc associated with the seven promises, the groom helps the bride touch seven betel nuts with her right toe. The bride promises to fulfill requests such as taking care of the home, be cautious with money and be understanding and support her partner.
A gujarati wedding ends with ashirwaad (blessings) before the couple depart.
This completes the wedding events. It is a sad moment for the bride as she leaves her own family to form a new home.
Ghar Nu Laxrni
This ritual marks the bride’s first steps in to her new home where she is greeted by her mother-in-law. The new bride is considered the Ghar nu Laxmi —the goddess who brings good fortune and wealth to the home. A small , ritual is performed where the bride must knock over a vessel filled with rice with her foot, which is placed at the entrance. As the vessel falls, the bride shows that she understands her responsibilities to her new family.
After the wedding, some families play a game of aeki-beki. This is when the bride and groom try to find rings that have been placed inside a vessel and they only have seven attempts to find it. The person who rinds.